I’m currently studying for my “Learners and Learning: Individuals” module – looking particularly at identity in adolescence. It’s interesting to overlay the theories of Erikson and others to my personal development and see how well they fit. The following quote in particular struck me as I applied it to my life.
“Intimacy is the ability to fuse your identity with somebody else’s without fear that you’re going to lose something yourself.” -Erik Erikson
I had been single for quite some time, but then my “someone special” entered into my life, and we’re currently two months away from our wedding. For both of us it’s been an amazing six months so far and quite a learning curve, but I think we agree that it’s come just at the right time for both of us – perhaps because we’re now secure enough in who we are to “fuse” with someone else without fear.
Anyway, that’s enough procrastinating for one day, back to the books…
“The opaque glance and the pimples. The fancy new nakedness they’re all dressed up in with no place to go. The eyes full of secrets they have a strong hunch everybody is on to. The shadowed brow. Being not quite a child and not quite a grown-up either is hard word, and they look it. Living in two worlds at once is no picnic.”Frederick Buechner – Whistling in the Dark
“Adolescence is…a stage between infancy and adultery.”
Abrose Bierce – Devil’s Dictionary
“Adults tend to treat adolescents as ‘big kids’ or ‘little adults’. They are neither. Yes they are both. Adults must work to respect and honour the unique challenges and opportunities of this age ‘between the times’.”
Richard Dunn – Putting Youth Ministry in Perspective
“Jesus was once a teenager, but he was never an adolescent.”
Sadly someone managed to hold their “dating profile” in the flame. Did you know that with a small amount of paper in it a tealight can create quite an impressive flame? And did you also know that you can’t blow it out? And did you know that pouring a cup of water on it causes the flame to leap two feet into the air? Nope – neither did we.
Fire extinguisher was of course on standby – but we eventually put it out by smothering it with a plate. Phew!